I know that most of my posts are about the emotions and stages of grief while dealing with a loss of pregnancy, but today I want to talk post about health and my last week of healing.
First I’d like to point out something very common in the sleeping patterns of someone mourning a loss. It can go one of two ways, there are people like me that have issue sleeping at all and then there are people like Aaron who want to sleep all the time. If you are like Aaron you have nothing to worry about. Exhaustion is totally normal when suffering a loss. If you are like me though then it is so important to try and remember how important it is for your body to heal and for your mental health to get enough sleep at night.
Secondly, listen to and take care of your body. If you are hungry – eat. Even if you don’t feel like it. Don’t try to exercise more than your body can handle. After my first D&C procedure I went back to working out too soon and caused myself a lot of unneeded pain. Exercise is great for releasing the endorphins you might be craving to help with loss and hormonal depression, but so does sunshine and walks. Don’t push yourself too hard. If you have an ache or pain that doesn’t seem right to you than call your doctor. Drink enough water so that your body can properly tell you what it needs.
Lastly, for your mental health, please remember all the stages of grief. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance are all important to a healthy grieving process. They don’t always have to happen in the “right” order and it’s even normal to repeat stages. Personally, I go through denial, anger, and acceptance multiple times. Acceptance and denial always happen hand in hand. For instance, when I eat shrimp and panic because of what it may do to my baby, I then have to remind myself right away that I no longer have a baby to protect by not eating shrimp. Followed by anger about the situation and the having to remind myself constantly. The reason this is all important to remember is because you need to give yourself and your partner a break as you go through this.
Anyways, I thought this was important because third time around this terrible situation and I still did everything wrong all over again. Please let yourself breath. Don’t push yourself too far. Give yourself some wiggle room and always take some time to say your prayers.